Holy moly it’s been a while! And here we are, already at Christmas-time, 2014 almost upon us. And I couldn’t be more relieved (and excited). I don’t know about you, but 2013 was pretty crazy. No, it was really crazy!
Let’s not bore one another with the details of the insanity. Let us just look at one another and nod and know exactly what we both went through. And we made it! Cheers to us and bringing back order into our lives and continuing to plug along, in a straight line hopefully.
We’ve all learned and accomplished much this year. It may have been quite a slog for a lot of us, but the lessons are indispensable. Here are some from my end:
- “Just Float.” This is one of the most quotable movie lines that circulate throughout our family during stressful times. It’s from the fabulous (and eerily accurate) film, Home for the Holidays. Rent it…scratch that, buy it. And repeat that line to yourself when you start to feel like you’re spinning. It works, I promise you.
- “I got this.” This line is not from a movie, but a mere phrase wielding tremendous power told to me by one of my closest friends when I found myself feeling completely out of control with my job. “Repeat it to yourself, even if it’s not true. It tricks your brain and you then believe it. It works every time.” And was he right! So right in fact, that I posted this meme on my desk wall…just for those moments when I need a reminder.
- Don’t give up, just take a break. I’m what you call the opposite of hoarder. I’m pretty much an OCD cleanser in almost every aspect of my life. Feeling overwhelmed? Drop something. Give something away. From clothes to books to furniture to…yep, even this blog and my podcast. Don’t worry, I’m not giving it up. But it did get to a point where I didn’t know if I could keep it up with everything else going on. There were moments I truly thought of just moving on. Luckily another dear friend reminded me that it’s okay to take a break for a while, and make things a bit more manageable when I revisit things. Aren’t friends great? They do indeed help put things in perspective. So I offer the same statement to you; for all of us overachievers and “yes people” out there, the world will not end if we take a bit of a break, or not do something to the 100%. Sometimes 50% or even less is just fine.
- Random acts of kindness galore! This may not work for everyone, but when I feel sad or lonely, I go out of my way to do something for a friend or someone I love. It sounds a bit cheesy, but it gets me out of whatever funk I may be in every time; and I hate wallowing so it’s a good distraction from my own head. Just a simple bag of candy or a card works great. One time I was picking up cat food and I bought everyone at the office who had pets little pet toys. It’s fun, you should try it.
- You don’t have to do everything at once. This one I’m pretty sure we all hear time and time again, but it is important to have on hand when we just can’t seem to start anything. For instance, I have a second bedroom. Has anyone seen it? Just the boxes that have lived in it for the past 11 months. Last weekend, I didn’t unpack all the boxes, but I situated them in the closet and hung up pictures and added a few more bits of decor. I have a functional second bedroom now! No, it’s not yet complete, but it’s usable and clean and feels homey. Baby steps; love those baby steps.
- Enjoy the little things. Almost every night after work or right before bed, I take a piping hot bath with Epsom salt, light a candle, listen to music, read and drink a glass of scotch. It has become one of my most looked-forward to activities; and as the adage goes, “It’s the little things that make us happy.” So bring those little things to the forefront! And enjoy.
These are just a few things that I’m going to take with me from 2013 to 2014; because they’ll make this coming year that much more manageable. What are some of your 2013 takeaways? Please share in the comments!